Wedding Gifts

Question: Is it wrong to sell wedding gifts that i don't like or don't use?

(Posted by: January on 2009-07-26 02:30:02)

I received a lot of valuable wedding presents like crystals and collectible china and lots of expensive decorative things that I& #039;m not very fond of and don& #039;t use. I want to sell it at a second hand store and use the money to buy things I really need and will use for the house. Everybody is making me feel guilty for wanting to do this. Like I am not being grateful. But I don& #039;t relish the idea of keeping them in storage where they will never see the light of day. I don& #039;t want to recycle and give them out as gifts as I dread & #039;accidents& #039; and being found out. Would you care if somebody sold away your precious wedding gift for a fraction of the price to buy something else?

Posted by: Ryan M on 2009-07-26, 02:34:37

The truth is, mostly everyone does that whether its birthdays, christmas, wedding etc.

Posted by: Josh on 2009-07-26, 02:35:29

That is mainly your decision - And how close the giver was to you may decide that. I mean, they are your presents, and you have the right to do anything you want. If your sister gave you a diamond for instance, don 't sell it. It 's a very nice present and your sis would probably be insulted. But if it 's from somebody that is disconnected with your life, then it 's more-so ok. Hopefully nobody will rat you out.

Posted by: Old Mister Happy on 2009-07-26, 02:37:01

Frankly I think in the long run you might want to consider keeping these things for a few years until you become a bit more mature. Our tastes often change. If you are sure, however, then sell the stuff, it is yours to do with as you please; but your husband really should have a say in the things given by his family. I personally think you are being rash, but I don 't know you or the stuff you are talking about.

Posted by: ? on 2009-07-26, 02:39:20

Yes honestly i would wouldn 't you care girl and it cost alot of money?? its suppose to be a gift for your passion of love and everything you know that and i know you want to make some money to buy what you need but do plz find another way of getting money not selling gifts then you will never recieve another gift again and feel bad and guilty forever...

Posted by: eightieschic on 2009-07-26, 03:04:32

Why did you get all these things? Didn 't you have a registry? Did you receive gift slips for any of the items so you can return or exchange them? If you just randomly received these items, then keep them for 3 years then sell them. If these items were on your registry, then your stuck with them. However, you are not stuck with anything given to you with a gift slip.

Posted by: JonV on 2009-07-26, 06:05:16

There is no reason for you to feel guilty about this. Just stop discussing your plans for the gifts with other people. The rule is that you can dispose of your gifts anyway you want to, as long as you don 't tell the giver. (Bit if the stuff is really that expensive, then try to get as much as you can for it. Don 't take the first offer just to get it off your hands.)

Posted by: Aggie on 2009-07-26, 12:26:51

They are YOUR gifts. You are allowed to do with them whatever you wish.

Posted by: Inundated in SF on 2009-07-26, 18:38:24

Many people return wedding gifts because they just cannot or will not use them (and now you know why so many people register at stores for specific things). It 's common. Don 't sell to the second hand store, do some research and find out where the original gifts came from and take them back, tell the clerk that it was a wedding gift. They should either give you full reimbursement or a full store credit for it so you can buy what you actually want. Stores know that a lot of wedding gifts will be returned. Just make sure the store is selling exactly what you are returning. Personally, as soon as I gift the gift, what the receiver wants to do with it is up to them and I have no attachment to it. I also never know what to give anyone so generally end up giving a $$ which can always be used.